The same thing that's wrong with being the one tasked with keeping the house ckean and preparing meals night after night.

It's the opposite side of the same coin.

Where one partner is completely dependent on the other, resentments breed, assigned tasks become drudgery, there's nothing to say, and you become two people living separate lives within the same house.

You know, the majority of men aren't happy about being Provider & Protector™ either. They bitch and moan about all the damn time; you see a lot of that here in Medium too. And they feel teaooes by it and don't knownhow to get out from under those expectations either.

If you won't listen to or hear me, try listening to other men.

You and Gareth do not fall into the norm. You're on the outskirts of the standard bell curve. That doesn't make either one of you 'wrong' or 'abnormal' or any of that shit but you both err in trying to make everyone else be like you. It's just as disasterous as you being forced to play by other rules.

People are how they are. They desire what they desire. They like what they like and don't like what they don't like. They want what they want.

The majority of women do not want a hierarchy in the home. They want their home to be a nest. A den. So they can relax. And rest.