The problem with the phone in the back of the pocket clips is that because you're walking around, it's hard to get decent footage of what you mean.

One of those TikToks was a montages of still frames. Some of them you can definitely tell he was staring at her butt, others....I'm not prepared to make that call either way. Still others, I'd say not based on that one still frame.

I don't need footage. I see it and get it IRL. So I know how it goes down. And I'm middle aged now. But I also have a daughter who is about to turn 20. She started drawing lusty male looks at 12. Most of us do.

I think the real question here is could I get footage to adequately convey the creepy vibe these men give off.

And the answer to that is probably not. You'd have to be filming unknown at all times because men change their behavior when they know they're being watched or there might be a penalty.

That tells us they know they're in the wrong. If they weren't, they wouldn't modify their behavior to avoid censure.

But having experienced the glare and being aware of the glare for 40 years now, this is nothing new (meaning men observing women)

What is new is how they're doing so. There really is something more predatory about it than there was 40 years ago. Broad strokes.

Button again, men's general demeanor has become less engaging and friendly and more perceptively hostile, threatening, and predatory over that same time frame. Here, I'm referring to the social expectation of male bodied individuals to present and conduct themselves in a more hostile way as an accepted performance of manhood, not individual men or even men as a gender or group.

This is tied to western culture. Asian men do not do this, Indigenous men do not do this, Hispanic and African men do, at least these men living in Western culture but it's not as pervasive by and large. When they do, it seems more extreme because it's usually tied to hip hop and gangster culture (mimicking what is seen in media).

I'll give you a firm and specific example.

When I was young and into my early adulthood years, when you passed by men in the street they'd smile at you and greet you. Not every one, but it was common and socially accepted.

You'd get greetings like, "Hey, how's it goin'?", "Morning, ma'am/miss", or my personal favorite, a big bright smile and "Beautiful day and you make it brighter!" to which I would always reply, "It is glorious, isn't it?"

You were observed, but it wasn't generally predatory and lewd. It was cursory and respectful. No expectations or weird demands to it.

Then all of a sudden men started presenting the selves as being perpetually passed off. No smiles. No greeting. Just staring at you walk by from up against a building wall or at a Cafe table or whatever.

So women stopped smiling at them, reactively. If people are having a bad day, they generally want to be left alone. This is what men's new body language and demeanor signaled they wanted, so this is what they got. Left alone.

Within less than a decade, men are on the streets screaming at women to smile at them. They're cold approaching women on the streets trying to game sex from us. And they're still skulking around, looking perpetually pissed off.

There is a culture around manhood and a culture around womanhood. Both have changed detrimental to both genders based on gender essentialist ideas and narratives.

Those of us who are old enough have seen the change. But older men seem to have forgotten a lot or only see how women have changed and not how men have changed.

Humans are natural mimics. We mimic the behavior we see in front of us. Think about how men present themselves in movies through the different decades and how they present themselves in movies today.

Do you see the mimicry of that presentation IRL. I do. It just doesn't have the good lighting and the draw of well placed camera angles to it and it's not as pronounced.