The problem here is that such questionnaires are often ambiguous. They're also too polar.

It's like that bar game that was going around about a decade or so back. What was it called? 3 celebrities, characters, or real average people were named and you had to choose who you would kill, fuck, and marry. Do you know the one I'm talking about?

If you ask what do you look for first when you first meet someone, most everybody is going to pick something related to one's presentation. Their looks, their presence, their voice, their shape, their fitness, whatever.

And that's fine. There's nothing wrong with that. Because I'm out question, we didn't stipulate any conditions other than that you have just met them. We didn't suggest relationship dynamics environment, conversation, previous knowledge (someone has vouched for them or you've seen them in social media some), whether you meet face to face or you see them across the room, etc.

So what else would you notice at that point? You've literally just seen them. First impressions are almost always physical ones. That's why our grandparents used to say to stand up straight and dress nice in public. You never know who you're going to meet.

But asking what you first notice is not the same as asking if you value looks over character or what kind of character traits you're looking for.

It's also not the same as asking if you are interested in knowing this person in a romantic capacity or something else. Or even if you're not in the market for a relationship of any caliber at the current moment.

I get what guys are saying here and I don't disagree, per se. I can't help but find it remarkably hypocritical though because men do the same thing to women. Like I said, I find it natural and obvious personally, but why do guys feel they have the right to blast and bash women for doing what they themselves do. What we all do. We ALL notice physical characteristics first. Secondly, where's the nuance to realize that noticing physical characteristics is just the introductory part of getting to know someone. If we were comparing it to the training course, it would be the first 5 minutes of a week long training program. Why are men who get themselves overly worked up about this hanging all their hopes and expectations on the first 5 minutes?

Make it make sense.