That's true, but in our case it's not because we haven't developed relationship skills or feel entitled to a partner.

It's been the realization that what we want, men don't want to offer and what they want, by definition of what that is, is unsustainable for part of it and we don't provide it for part of it.

We recognize that, by and large, we don't want the same things or even complimentary things out of a relationship. To be in one, knowing that the case, would only cause harm to everyone involved.

Still, Urchling hasn't given up on the idea like I have, she's still young. What she's foregoing is dating and dating drama. The dating game. Dating as a strategy. Dating as part of your vision board. Dating apps. All that bullshit. She's just going to live her life and build her life into one that brings her peace, fulfillment, etc, and one that she feels honors her integrity. If she meets somebody who fits into that without being disruptive or dishonored her integrity, that's great. And if she doesn't, she still has a life she can be proud of instead of carrying a lot of regret. She can even have a child or two if she wants, or lots of cats, lol (it'll be dogs and maybe a bookshelf full of praying mantises from around the world. Maybe sea snails).

And you do hear about guys like this too. They're out there, just living their lives. Having adventures and making friends. Following their passions and doing things.

Those guys? We both wish them well. They're amazing. UT you won't find them on the internet complaining about relationships any or about the loneliness epidemic or whatever. And they don't bitch endlessly about women and how women are the reason for everything g wrong and unhappy about their lives.

They're too busy out living their lives.