Thats the problem with Fokt's thoughts here. Like most men, he has romanticized harassment.
But what you men seem to think isn't what goes down.
Again, as the object, you don't get to choose what level of harassment you get or where it will end. You have live with that anxiety whenever you're in public. You're the object. You might have someone lewdly ask you, from across the street, "Is that a sock in your pants or are you just happy to see me?", and that might be it but they they might then follow you down the street very loudly so everyone hears and stares at you, "work it, Baby!" over and over again. Or maybe someone watches you walk by, then circles around and approaches you from the front, blocking your way and "accidentally" grabs your crotch and says, "oh I'm sorry. Wow. That is real. I couldn't tell." or smacks your dick real hard and says, "I just couldn't resist tapping that. Was it as good for you?" Or you might have some imbecile who nearly runs you down in a car making sure you know that think you're hot and they see you. That's always fun.
Lots of times, it won't be a single woman, but a group performing these theateics at your expense for each other.
Or, it might not be about how supposedly packed you are but about how small. You're walking down the street and this possee of lecherous fiends are doing a full on review or stratefizi f how they're going to hold you down and make you hard so they can measure your dick. Theyre placing bets.
One thing is certain, however it goes down, you're not going to feel sexually validated by it. You're going to feel put off, exposed, threatened, and creeped out.
Lots of times the argument coming from men is that women only complain when "ugly" or undesireable men do it. That's the thing about sexual validation. You only feel validated when the attraction is mutual. It's the seeing and being seen that registers as validating. You rarely see attractive men catcalling outside of a group where they're egging each other on. Catcalling isbugly behavior so the attractive enough guy (self perception) is not going to risk uglying himself in your eyes and ruin any chance of getting his own validation hit.
Catcalling isn't about finding someone attractive. It's about revenge because you think you aren't, it's an act of desperation for someone who can't maintain any kind of healthy relationship (labor dumping), or it's an act of pecking because you feel emasculated or insecure about yourself (this is the "no matter how bad things get, at least I'm not a woman" way to build yourself up and increase your own testosterone levels and you're using some innocent female passerby to do it).
Fokt and others who think it's annoying but mostly harmless or done out of some awkward naivete have to anticized arrassment because you don't understand it and are conflating forms of dominance pecking with sexuality and loneliness from 'not being chosen' in various ways.
It's absolutely precious that you think we don't already suffer vicious put downs.
It hasn't led to briadening of the law yet. And I'll remind you that it's still almost impossible to bring a civil trial in these cases for lack of evidence when it haopens or being able to track down who did it. Harassment doesn't typically go to criminal court unless it's become stalking or ended in murder or there have been multiple attempts to get the harrasser to desist. Unless it's escalated to that level, it will go to civil trial.
