That's the advertising, but it's false advertising isn't it? It ignores a few pointed details about human nature.

Come talk to me again in 25 or 30 years about complementarianism and let me know how it went for you. Even if it sort of generally works out, you're going to be in for some super painful life lessons.

It's not true that women are already attracted to men because they accepted a date. They could be. That first date could also be a trial run to see if a romantic attraction can spark. Lot of women aren't loose with their emotions like Jane Eyre. They're not in love with being in love. They're also not swayed by looks as much as some women are. They have to spend time with someone a while and see if attraction sparks.

And don't forget, a lot of people are dating off dating apps now. They don't already know the person.

You seem to be looking at dating inside a virginity culture Christian perspective only. Most people are not dating inside that culture, nor do they want anywhere near it. For obvious reasons. So they've got a different calculus than what you would operate under.