That’s problematic too though.

When someone is mugged and can name their mugger, we don’t say to them “innocent until proven guilty.

We believe them, we investigate the situation, then we make our determinations about it.

Shannon is right. “Innocent until proven guilty” is a term and sentiment that should stay in the arena of a court.

Further, not all abusive acts carry criminal liability or are done with express intent to harm. How should we handle those?

If we can’t talk about it, how can we educate and get all parties involved straightened out so they don’t make the same mistakes again, harm others or themselves again, and give a collective societal shrug that XYZ is okay and acceptable behavior? Especially in regards to ALL the stuff that is creepy, uncomfortable, and harmful but not necessarily criminal? Or where there is not enough evidence of legal weight to press charges and go to trial?

There is no other place to deal with that stuff other than a cultural arena.