That's not a long term solution either. You're nust going to end up resenting him or losing interest because he has to be mothered.

I trained my husband to stop that shit by returning the favor when he asked for something.

Match their energy. Try to have an adult conversation and negotiate first, but if they won't engage just mirror their energy and behavior. When they balk...."hey, what's good for the goose...."

That won't save a bad marriage. But at least you'll know whether or not he's in it to be served and serviced or if he wants to be a husband and unserstsnds what that means. You won't spend 20 or more years hoping, begging, and pleading for him to change and have the regret of a wasted life on someone who only ever loved and cared about themselves.