That's not a judgement on gay men. And of course they're happy with it. They get the desire they crave they way they want to receive it.

As do lesbians.

Did you miss the part where I was equating my suggestion to what we cis het women do amongst our friend groups. We give each other sexual admiration how we like to receive it. We don't get it how we like to receive it from the opposite sex either.

There's no threat behind it coming from friends because you know they don't mean it that way.

I'm just saying if it's that important to you men that you get it that way, which to me as a woman is admittedly often gross and disgusting, maybe you should look amongst yourselves for it instead of being resentful, jealous, and eventually hateful toward us because we're being forcefed something we don't even want.

If you men find that to be a slight on gay men, it's because of how you men feel about gay men. That you men would feel threatened by those sorts of advances even in lighthearted jest by someone you KNOW has no real sexual interest in you.

One final note. I've known a few men, straight men, who can sexually banter back and forth with each other without being threatened or being weirded out by it so some men have gotten there.