That's not a date though. That's a hook up
with coffee.

That's interesting because that's exactly the reason I started insisting on coffee dates. Guys started acting like if they bought me a meal I owed them sex. One guy hit me up with a sex demand after a whopper meal at Burger King. He didn't even ask me out on a date properly. He just asked if I wanted to grab something to eat so we could continue our discussion then he offered to pay. We ate, then he demanded sex. Not asked. Demanded.

It seems like dating is dying. There is a rising crowd of men who think the slightest bit of attention they pay us means we owe them sex. It's ALL they care about and they hound us relentlessly.

You just never know when some interaction is going to turn weird on a dime or some guy is going to get really coercive, manipulative, or aggressive.

Why bother? I'm so much happier now that I've left dating behind. Now it's mostly just the generic icky street harassers and ever present pack of fruit flies.