That's interesting. Cause I'm sitting here reading this article and wondering why more men aren't diagnosed BPD because this describes so many to a T. Constantly needing assurance and validation, and the spoken lines are verbatim what you hear from men along with pointless accusations of infidelity based on nothing but their own insecurity of not measuring up. The starting fights to stalking type behavior. I've never heard of a man in my orbit having been diagnosed BPD. I know there must be some, but it seems suspiciously rare given what was laid out in the article based on personal experience and knowledge.

My next thought was why is this even a psychological disorder if we learn coping skills from our families? Wouldn't that just make it a learned behavior that can be unlearned? Also, I've not known many people who haven't gone there from time to time, including myself, especially when every other avenue has failed? I certainly don't have an ego or inability to function problem. So, is it like a fear vs a phobia or being tidy vs OCD thing? It's the extreme side of the scale of otherwise normal behavior under certain conditions?

And you're right. There is a lot on confluence with trauma behavior. If so many people with BPD experienced trauma as a child, then isn't it just PTSD. Wouldn't the occurrence of significant childhood trauma exclude a diagnosis of BPD in most cases or make it a false diagnosis?

Are women being gaslit by the psychiatric profession with BPD? Again?

This is very interesting. Thanks for your comment and your courage. It's food for thought.