That's disingenuous.

She actually makes as good a point as Lee.

Lee's article is premised on the fact that men will communicate if offered a chance. And that's where it falls short in practicality. She admits that all the men had failed to communicate their hearts desire to their lived ones in the first place.

So women are supposed to read their minds in order to problem solve so they *might* get something they want downstream in return? And then make it happen for the guy so he'll be happy while they've don't absolutely nothing to advocate for themselves or negotiate in the first place?

It's not XX who had been brainwashed about the evils of masculinity. It's you men who have brainwashed yourselves out of building your own lives in favor of some wacked out construct of masculinity promoted by Influencer culture and the blame women because you're so miserable. You've enslaved yourselves to an idea about masculinity that's not sustainable and not good for you rather than being responsible for your own emotional landscapes and well being.

Theres nothing evil about masculinity. The current iteration of it is an extreme that doesn't work for most men in reality, otherwise they wouldnt be so miserable and unhappy.

What happens IRL, is that you notice your guy is less than the happiest of campers, you ask what's up, you get stonewalled, you get berated, you get called names and whined at for being a nag or whatever, you get excuses like mental man cave nonsense which is a clear attempt to dodge accountability for his own emotions.

What you don't get is an opportunity to problem solve. Because being that stoic man who takes everything and shows no emotion I not important than ANYTHING else. Right?