That's because there's a difference between a goal and a strategy.

Men need to learn this. They want "advice" or strategies that will work across the board on any woman they desire.

That's what they want and why they're frustrated. They're not getting mixed messages.

Theyre looking at the whole endeavor wrong headed. Have been for a while.

What they want can't be done. Women are not Stepford chicks that rolled off a factory floor. There is no tip, strategy, or advice that can be given that will work on 100% of women 100% of the time. Can't be done.

I can give you the goal of being yourself. I can point out that in order to be yourself and be comfortable with yourself will require you to know yourself first. I can pontificate at great length the benefits of being yourself over pretending to be something that you're not and draw a clear through line to the conclusion that being yourself is the best way to actually get the girl AND keep her. I can point out ways to get to know yourself and develop self awareness and how to be confident in who you are. I can help you ride that pony.

But I can't make appreciate that pony over the one across the stream. I can't make you like yourself enough to develop some magnetism. There's no magic oil or bullet there either.

And if you're real, instead of settling for being a pretender, you shouldn't want there to be. You should see the journey for what it is and have the right outlook for the adventure before you.