That's always brought up, but the percentage of men who are under 5'4" is infantesimally small.

There are women more women under 5'4" available to date. It's true that women prefer tall men. The important thing to remember is that to the woman, that means taller than her, not 6 ft. And it's not an absolute. Some women do not have that preference and some women prefer the opposite. I think it mostly comes down to a goldilocks zone of the height differential not being significant enough to generate a lot of commentary. Women are endlesslys ceutinized over every damned thing. You get to a point where you don't invite more scrutiny, you know?

You could have attended a church with a younger demographic. They're out there. Also sounfs like your church wasn't very into community building.

There are also all sorts of things at a conference level where Christians can mingle. My church even had a singles night where they put on a coffee social.

Meet ups. Take on a hobby. Show up.

Arts in the Park. Craft shows. Thinga like that.

I've already done a whole huge list in another thread and I don't have the energy to go through it again.

Especially, when all I got for my trouble was who going on how none of those things help shy men.

There's stuff out there. If you don't like what's already available, you start your own thing. You make it inviting. You invite. You show up and be present and let serendipity happen.

But you have to leave the house. Get out there and live a life. Stop hiding in the proverbial basement and behind screens.