That's also tied in to male identity. You can't be a man without competition. All men are obsessed with constant competition in order to achieve status amongst other men.

They'll say it's necessary in order to "win" a mate but really, it's in order to prove themselves better than or superior to others.

The only way out is to end dominance hierarchy. That means everyone involved has to set aside ideas of gender essentislism, supremacy, hyper fixation on competition, human traits being assigned to gender, racial superiority, that human value has to be earned....all the things.

We either set all that aside and live by new rules and a new abstract paradigm or we continue making enemies of each other.

One because they have become hyper fixated on defining and expressing male sexuality by mimicking and emulating the behavior of predator animals, who they admire and the other because by definition, your predator is your enemy.