That part, I agree with. I disagree with the romantic relationships angle.

You've to to be able to function in your own life and no one is an island into themselves.

I'm that context, you're doing it for you and you clearly benefit.

Doing it so you can take on another relationship is less about your health and well being and more about fulfilling societal expectations when they've already let you down. It's asking you to do all the work and take all the risk on behalf of an entity (society) that has already betrayed that trust and is gaslighting you. And that's sadly where a lot of the pressure to heal is coming from.

Glad to hear you're doing better. One step at a time.