Sure. My friend's son recently dated such a woman. She flat out told him that he needed to do this that and the other because she could.trade up any time as she was sitting on a pot of gold. My friend had to explain to me what that meant. It's kind of obvious but my friend has a habit of chattering and repeating (teacher syndrome) and I have a focus problem
and how we got there threw me for a loop. Lol. I got lost.

Anyways, this girl up and announces to R, tellingly after he had placed a boundary, that she was sitting on a pot of gold and if he didn't give her what she wanted then there were plenty of men who would. They met via a dating app. I think that's crucial to make that point, which is why I keep harping on about it.

Male or female, there are two types of people who stay and operate long term (key words long term) on dating apps.

You're either a dupe/mark or you're a catfish/grifter.

It's one of the two. I will include the hook up phenomenon as part of that because it might be mutually using each other which is fine if it's honest (you do you) but if you're not being honest, you're manipulating. Making assumptions about sexual relatunships is lying by omission. It's cowardly.

Keep in mind, the other day I said we all tried dating apps. That's true too rather than a contradiction because the context of those key words changes the paramaters.

My same friend's sister lost her house to a conman who "dated" her off an app. He's in jail now, but she still lost her house.

Those apps are a magnet for unscrupulous people. The design was going to lead to that end. Until you realize that and really own that truth, your presence there is like being at a turkey shoot where you're the turkey.

Buyer beware.

Fortunately for R, he has a stellar mama who raised him right and to hold to good sense. He also had the lived history of his aunt that he witnessed as a teenager/young man so he knew very well what sorts of cataclysmic shit can befall one when they place something else over good sense.

He called the waiter, paid the bill, and left her sitting there while he walked out the door.

Good for him. I was so proud of him. My friend just grinned when I said "good for him!". Her face just lit up. She said, "He KNOWS he better listen to his Mama. I TOLD him to watch out for that girl. I said, 'Son, she's very pretty but she's not perfect. She has poor character. She's looking to take you for a ride.' I was right. He knew I was right and he better listen to me."

She went in for a while. Sometimes she's adorable like that.

Anyway, the ultimate point here is what my Grandma taught me...

If you want a 15 point buck (a good quality person), don't go hunting for them in the bottom of a lake. You won't find anything there but catfish.

My very first story ever on Medium was this very thing. Still true.

You gentlemen are placing the empty and magical thinking promises of tech bros over good sense and blaming *women* because you keep catching female catfish.

Get off those apps gentlemen. Meet us in the real world with real integrity.

I'll stop harping now.