Sure. I'd just ask myself if I was making it an issue for them, though. I'd check to make sure I wasn't pecking them in some way or demanding constant pacification over that insecurity before I laid it solely at their feet.

But you do you.

I forgot to mention in that, that my grandmother was tsller than my grandfather. It seemed like it didn't bother either of them. But one time inwas out shopping with my grandma and caught her looking longingly at a pair of high heeled shoes and I realized she never wore high heels.

I asked her why she didn't get them and she put me off, said she didn't need them that kind of thing. We go on, and every so often she makes a ststement puttinf the shoes down. They were too expensive for what they were. She disnt have anythint to go with them. The color wasn't exactly right.

Then it was....they're not worth the fallout. I asked her what she meant.

"Look, Peanut. I'd wear them to go out, not around the house. We go out with your granddad's work friends. They make him feel bad because he's the shortest of the 3 of them. Pmuez I have a college degree and Granddad doesn't. Doesn't matter, but they peck him over it constantly. The shoes atent worth it because it takes him FOREVER to get out of a mood when they have a go at him. He'll sulk about it for a whole week. I love those shoes but I'd rather have peace in my home."

Granddad never knew what she gave up to protect his feelings. He never realized he sulked, he thought he was being stoic. He never knew he was unpleasant to live with and sometimes made little snide barbs at her because HIS friends were dicks toward HIM. Just sharing that love I guess. Trouble is, most women don't want it or see it as a form of affection like men do.