Sure I can, as that's the legal standard. I can do so, because that's what I have to live with, as does everyone else.

Doesn't mean I like it or agree with it, at least not completely. I agree the laws need to be changed.

Still, it's ridiculous to say that legal definitions don't matter. They're the standard of conduct we agree to adhere to.

But fine, okay. Dictionary.com defines rape as
unlawful sexual intercourse or any other sexual penetration of the vagina, anus, or mouth of another person, with or without force, by a sex organ, other body part, or foreign object, without the consent of the victim.

Surely, you'll agree that the dictionary is something we can work with. I also gave an example of coercing, tricking, or defrauding someone into fatherhood, if he agreed to sex as not being rape in most cases. By legal standards, it's just not prosecutable.

I'm not saying it's not wrong. I'm not saying its not a crime. I'm saying it's not rape. It doesn't meet the criteria of the definition by most dictionaries and by most legal codes. Best bet is to go with a charge of fraud, conspiracy to commit fraud, coercion, conspiracy to coerce, sexual misconduct, etc. Some states have reproductive abuse or coercion laws now, separate from the act of rape.

If you can prove reproductive coercion or abuse whether or not that particular state has a law on the books, you can usually avoid child support. This seems to be the biggest concern of most men. Whenever I see these discussions, it generally comes down to money. You can also voluntarily sever your parental rights and walk away.

I have to admit I'm leery of changing the definition to include this conduct as rape. Doesn't mean I would ever condone this behavior or wouldn't want to see it prosecuted/criminalized. I'm just saying we should all think that through really well before jumping on that bandwagon. Rape loses its meaning when anything can suddenly be labeled as rape. The ultimate problem here is that you're taking a consensual act of sex and calling it rape after the fact based on outcome.

Rape laws and interpretations are already a mess. Why muddy the waters more?

Again. Not saying this conduct shouldn't be criminalized. I'm just saying let's be really mindful of how we go about it.