Stop doubling down on fake apologies. You can't empathize with what you don't understand. And you don't respect anyone else's culture or experience for that.

You think it's an every day or normal occurance for 79 year old woman to knock some sense into her 4 sons, the eldest of whom was 60 years old at a wake?

Okay. You run with that. Don't apply for a job as an investigator.