Sometimes in life, you've got to learn to want something else. Then the unfulfilled desire for what you don't have won't leave you feeling lonely. This was me. I came to the realization that what I truly wanted either didn't exist or was so rare that I would be unlikely to ever find it no matter how much I put myself out there.

Sometimes in life you have to learn to go after what you want in life rather than expect it to fall into your lap because you think the universe owes you or whatever. Y'all need a solid plan, not a strategy to manipulate, coerce, or scam. Y'all need to get busy. Y'all need to stop listening to marketing or advice that makes someone else money somehow and start seeking advice from people who have had real success.

I'm not trying to be mean, it's just an observation. The men who go on the most about not having a partner tend to be the ones who have invested the least. When I was looking, I dated over 100 men within 5 or 6 years. If you add in all the ones who asked me out and I said no and all the ones I asked out and was refused, were talking thousands of potential partners who were considered and evaluated. Most of those dates were "coffee" dates, maybe a dozen or so lee to longer term dating, a handful to a relationship, 2 to a deep and meaningful relationship where permanence was considered.

You ask guys who moan about how women won't date them how many they've asked out?

10.

Really? Ten, and you called it quits eh?

One could easily be forgiven for concluding that these men don't really want a partner. If they did, they'd actively be pursuing one. They'd have a plan, they'd gather resources, they'd set goals, they'd block it out. You can't tell me otherwise, because I've seen those things in fantasy sports leagues, investing, business, portfolios, building and creating things, coding, hunting ... nearly every other aspect of men's lives that matters to them.

Seems like most of these guys do get something the value more out of lackluster attempts to find a partner.

Again, one would be forgiven for concluding it's the same thing they get from following and falling into step with the Andrew Tates of the world.

Y'all are getting something. Clearly, it's of higher value than the partner you say you want.

Otherwise a whole lot more of you would be partnered. Easily.