Some people are selfish and manipulative. Machiavellian. Narcissists Sociopaths. Etc. Roughly half of those people are going to be female because half the overall population is female. It stands to reason that the other half will be male. Those men will have their own ways of weaponizing social constructs to get their way.

So, it's not the fault of feminism that this woman acted this way nor is she an actual feminist. If she claimed to be, which you never made clear btw, it was all part of the ruse to manipulate you. Again, men have their own versions of this.

If you understood real feminism, you wouldn't have been fooled. You sound like an incel, blaming women for your own weaknesses and short comings. Couldn't help but notice that you seem to have NO problem taking advantage of your mom, also during a pandemic, who's coming over to your place to cook for you. Nobody's buying that she was over there to cook especially for this girl she hardly knows. She just got included. No. Your mom was there for you.