So much of Trans ideology buys into masculinity/femininity tropes. It's little wonder Transwomen and feminists are clashing. Feminists have being challenging those beliefs and within the feminist community, many Transwomen are doubling down on them.
You don't have to be a jerk or strong to hold authority. You need to be someone others are willing to follow. That's why the best leaders consider their leadership to be an act of service.
Being soft doesn't make you weak. Rubber is soft, it's elasticity makes it strong though. Water is soft. It's one of the most formidable substances on this planet. It also brings life.
Transwomen call feminists TERRS but the fact of the matter is we, we don't hold the same beliefs a lot of the time, not to say there is no common ground.