So, he punished you for a perceived unfactual feeling which triggered you into your own emotional defensiveness. You're the one who had to take responsibility and action to set things to rights, which by your account was like pulling teeth.

And now you're the one apologizing to some guy on the internet for.....for......being the only adult in the situation? The only one who correctly managed and self regulated her emotions over the whole arc, even if you did sulk one night?

That's crazy.

Ma'am. It is not you who owes anyone an apology or who needs to do better. Seems to me you're doing as well as anyone could with what you've got. My heart goes out to you. You must get so lonely sometimes.