So.

He accepted your body as is without being some kind of way about it and judging his masculinity against it based on someone else's dictates.

He didn't treat you like a prize that once acquired, is just there for his enjoyment. He sees the relationship and your home as a living thing that must be maintained and cared for.

He didn't cut bait and run when your child didn't turn out to be a "Gerber Baby" and get some kind of way about what that might mean about his masculinity. He loves him anyway because he saw him as a person too, not a trophy or property or a status symbol.

Mutual respect and commitment without gettinf some kind of way about what some Random Barney might suggest that means about his masculinity (that he's pussy whipped).

He expressed desire for you and doesn't get in some kind of way like his masculinity somehow being cheated because you're not ALWAYS trussed up like a Christmas goose in the corset of femininity, which is your responsibility to please his manhood and you're a failure as a woman if you don't.

Shared history and interests. More proof that it's not just the sex.

I feel like I'm forgetting something in there. Regardless, I can see the attraction.

Good grief! One of the most important ones!!! I'm a dunderhead. You can count on him to uphold the Commons. Both at home and in the broader community. He invests in the community. And "them's not just pretty words"! He already did it. Literally. The proof is in the pudding.

Sounds like James kicked a lot of the "man-box" junk to the curb with the rest of the trash and decided to do the whole human person thing.

Well done James. Nice to meet you! (Pass that along?)

You two are as cute as a button. I wish you many more years together and may they all be happy ones.

I raise my mason jar to you both. Here here.
😉