Requiring men to take responsibility for their own reproductive potential like we have to take responsibility for ours isn't special treatment, my guy.
It is equality because youen are no longer getting the special treatment of not having to think about it.
This is not a disservice to women. Wishing and hoping it is amongst yourselves rather than getting your shit together won't make it so.
If men can't be serious about what is required to build a family, they don't deserve one. They're certainly not owed one.