Relationships are like living things. Generally speaking, bad things result when living things are reduced down to goals.

It's so selfish. You sound a bit like a lonely manosphere dude whinging on the internet but mercifully without the blaming and shaming the goal for not jumping into their laps because they have assigned you as a goal. An objective that will put a rubber stamp on their worth. It's almost just as cringe though, regardless.

You're stuck in a repeating thought loop of what you don't have. This is not healthy or conducive to building a relationship with someone.

Shift your thinking and your perspective away from getting what you want to bring someone who creates space for others to thrive, replenish, and rest. How can you do that?

Figure that out and someone will see you as a sun, and want to stay with you. Just make sure that someone is a sun themselves and not a black hole or a neutron.