Really?

To pander means to gratify or indulge an immoral or distasteful desire, need, or habit, or a person with such a desire.

Part of the male ego is a need to increase a man's status amongst his peers by controlling women.

Is this what you'd have us indulge and gratify?

No thanks. We women have had enough of that.

Checking ones ego is not the same as ones ego being destroyed. You're conflating.