Really?

I think you’re gaslighting. Or trying to anyways.

Your entire comment is spoken like someone who has lived his entire life at the pinnacle of societal norms and has not deigned to notice how such things might affect others.

I did not say most people are aware of such things in the moment. Remember, this couple have already broken up, she’s looking back on the relationship from a present, more knowledgeable and less emotional perspective.

Also. She never said what about the relationship she wouldn’t tolerate again. We don’t know what bothered her specifically. We’re speculating. I’m looking at it from an outside perspective and that’s what jumps out at me in particular.

It DOES matter. It absolutely matters. Or are you now going to falsely claim that men don’t define themselves as being providers? You can’t have it both ways, swapping back and forth to suit your own end.

Else, what’s the point in all the pomp and circumstance going through with that charade month after month? Why not just keep separate tickets at the point of sale? You pay for what you buy, she pays for what she buys. You’re not saving a clerk undue work, most of them have a two button ticket splitter for parties anyway. We all know most men will dodge certain forms of work at every opportunity unless there’s something in it for them. To be fair, most women are not much better. Humans are inherently lazy like that. Clearly, there’s a reason he wanted to do it this way and we do know it was all his idea.

Acknowledging that societal norms play a huge part in how we move through the world is not refusing to drop to the level of people you think are dumber than you. It’s hiding as a coward, like spreadsheet guy.

If what other people think truly doesn’t bother you at all, then why not split the ticket in the light of day? Why hide the real purse/ledger?