🙄. Really?

Do.estic abuse is a pattern of behavior, my friend. A pattern.

That slap was one bad moment. It does not negate all the other moments where Smith has not reacted to ridicule and scorn with violence.

Chris Rock, on the other hand has an established pattern of behavior of ridiculing black women and throwing cheap shots and scorn at the Smith family in particular. While Oscar night may seem like a mild but insensitive joke to some, in reality it is one link in a long standing pattern of behavior. So I'm not using the words harassment and bullying lightly or blithely.

Picking on someone or some group for a particular thing repeatedly actually is bullying and harassment. Doing so to make money is just weak and low. Oscar night was the straw that broke the camel's back from a long running campaign of violence against that family.

I'll say it again. Not all violence is created by fists and bitch slaps.

I'll add, to be fair it has not just been Chris Rock making his bread by the public consumption of the Smith family. He is one of many, but he's definitely been doing it.

Can you not see how sick and depraved it all is?

As anyone who has been bullied or harassed can tell you, ignoring them or taking the high road ... whatever you want to call it, doesn't work. The behavior has to be checked by either you, someone who loves and cares about you, a sentinel, or society at large or it will not stop. That's just how it works.

Ultimately, neither of these men are heroes, villains, or victims. They're both a little of all three.

Your worst night does not make you mentally deranged, dispicable beyond redemption, a demon, an abuser, an out of control freak-a-zoid, or worthy of contempt and scorn forevermore.

Everyone who's calling for public pillorying or tar and feathers needs to calm down. You're making too much noise and being drama whores for your own self gratification. You just want to be outraged over something that doesn't concern you as you're not even willing to look at the issue outside your own biased viewpoints. (Universal you, not you as an individual).