Rajeev is right. This is normalized male behavior.

You are right too. It’s definitely predatory.

We have normalized predatory behavior in men as part of courtship.

The fact that they don’t like to hear it called that is irrelevant. You don’t get to rewrite the dictionary just because you don’t like the definition as it applies (or might apply) to you.

Definition of predatory according to Merriam- Webster.

1a : of, relating to, or practicing plunder, pillage, or rapine. b : inclined or intended to injure or exploit others for personal gain or profit predatory pricing practices. 2 : living by predation : predaceous also : adapted to predation.