Possibly, I don't know enough to say for sure so I didn't. Don't get me wrong here, I'm no fan of Heard either, I do believe she abused him too. I'm not really defending or choosing her against him, I'm defending her against the outright viciousness of the public, against a mob mentality that has blinded itself to Depp's culpability here too.
Addiction is funny. There's no question she was using too. But, are you an addict just for using? Drug use seems to hit different people differently. Some people seem to be able to use recreationally without becoming dependent. They can stop. For me, you're not an addict until you can't stop and your body becomes dependent on your next fix.
I know she uses or has in the past. I've not heard about any stays in rehab, any repeating public incidences involving drugs, no behavioral shenanigans related to drugs, no rumors that have leaked out of Hollywood, etc.
That said, if she's using to self regulate her mental health in lieu of proper treatment, isn't that drug abuse? Or popping/mixing prescription pills for her condition (if she was prescribed something) for the purpose of getting high, isn't that abuse?
Okay, so assuming that is true, then what I have said earlier in several comments about drug addicts always being abusive applies to her too. Absolutely. If she's manipulating his addiction, that is abusive. It's akin to Munchausen's by proxy. But then so is him using his addiction to manipulate her mental health condition.
It really does go both ways here. Some people just shouldn't become romantically involved. They're terrible for each other. I do believe that's the case here.
I don't know anything about their wedding, so I won't speak about that. But I will say that part of marrying and making a life for someone is keeping your joint environment safe and healthy for them, whatever that may be. If I married an alcoholic, we don't keep booze in the home, if I married a blind person, we keep the home uncluttered and children are taught to put their toys up without fail, if I married someone who had been raped or abused as a child, we don't watch movies that are triggering, I don't act in manners that are unsettling even as a joke, I tend to their emotional safety diligently, and we budget for therapy and skills for me to be a better partner, etc.
If I can't or am unwilling to do those things, then we don't marry. If I'm not ready to step up to the plate for you 110% and you're unwilling or unable to do the same for me we're not going to make it. We'll only hurt ourselves, each other, and our children and families.
We all have our doubles and insecurities. If your significant other won't help you tend to them and keep them in check as needed, they're not a partner, are they? They're a weed, a blight, a drain on your life.
Life is hard enough. People who claim to love you shouldn't make it worse.
