Only in the movies. And Sting said something or other about 8 hour tantric sessions that had a bunch of (male) talk show hosts with their knickers in a bunch once upon a yesteryear.

I remember one of my work colleagues having to soothe her husband about it because he was in a 2 week snit. When the guy went back to the bar to pick up our drinks she rolled her eyes at me and said 8 hr tantric sex with Sting or ANYONE else would be awesome but his neediness had already killed her libido dead. She just couldn’t get aroused. And, I was lucky because I was “already" divorced so I could just find me a tantric lover without guilt whenever I wanted. I put “already" in quotes because that word choice suggests a couple of different interpretation, one of which is that she had already decided to dump the guy was just working her way out of the marriage. They already had one kid by that point.

She was trapped in that pattern of coddling his insecurities. I think they lasted about 3 more years before she finally called it quits. Sadly, not before there were 2 kids involved. I’m pretty sure that second one was also to soothe his insecurities or maybe a stealth.

This is why you keep that “get out of jail free" fund and keep it separate and secret. You don’t want to be financially ensnared to such a degree that you can’t get out expediently if and when you need to.

Anyways.