One of the men who came for me got a coworker instead. He offered her a ride home and she accepted. He raped her in front of her 4 year old son and stabbed and cut her dozen of times with a pocket knife.

She had to have hundreds of stitches and she was scarred for life.

We had gone to school together. She was a year younger than me.

I saw what happened to her after.

This was that guy's third violent rape. He was hired as a known rapist with a preference for blondes and no one warned us.

They knew he was being friendly flirty with us, his history, and they didn't warn us.

The only reason I didn't accept the ride home when he asked me earlier (I got off 30 min before she did) was because he creeped me out being really pushy about it when I hesitated and because my dad stopped by to see if I was still there and wanted a ride home.

Not all rapes or assaults are 'polite' date rape or fraternity rape sorts of affairs.

Some of them are beyond brutal. Some of them are years of torture in a basement. Some of them leave you unable to function and with zero quitynof life going forward.

Dont pretend like your rape is how it always goes. Your experience does not translate to everyone's experience.

I got lucky. My friend didn't.

It's not like I'm saying if someone gets raped they should just end themselves. I don't know why you're insisting on taking that way.

I'm saying I respect the agency of personhood. That includes end of life decisions from rape, cancer, debilitating disease, and long term mental duress.

If we're not going to provide people with resources to recover, and let's be honest -- we don't, and we're going ro gaslight and blame them for criminal assaults agans them while we the criminals walk around free, and let's be honest -- we do, then we DO NOT have the right to demand people live with that when it causes unrecoverable, unending, and unnoticed suffering.