Okay, wow. Take a chill pill. I was referring to people for whom the terms are new. Hands down, that is mostly going to be older cisgender people who are not part of or attached to the trans community through family, friends, or colleagues.

But, it could also include trans people who maybe haven't kept up with all the activist work and lingo or young people who are starring to experience and explore gender and sex dysphoria and are just starting to learn about it.

You may not like to admit it, but there IS a lot of misinformation, inconsistency, confusion, debate, etc over various aspects of trans identity within the trans community itself.

Given that, is it really so bizarre or evidence of bias that the cis community would fumble around with terms, awkwardness, and what's socially acceptable to ask or talk about?

If you think so, maybe that attitude is part of the reason you're struggling so much more than other LGBTQ to gain acceptance.

Years ago, when gay men started coming out of the closet they were a whole lot more tolerant and open toward the curious and a whole lot less combative. My point is, you'll never get someone to accept you by making them your enemy. There has to be listening and respect on both sides.