Okay, I’m at work so I’m going to try to come back to the bulk of this comment later.

But as to why criticism of women always goes to misogyny, I’ve got a harsh truth and some tough love for you.

When women criticize men, even benignly, men take it as maligning them. Doesn’t matter what it’s about. Doesn’t matter how it’s stated. Doesn’t matter with what grade of kid gloves are used.

They take it as maligning them. It’s personal, even if it obviously doesn’t apply to them.

Therefore, when they criticize women, they are unable to do so without maligning them (“in turn"). Like using loaded and gendered terminology like "bossy". Therefore, men never truly criticize women. Not from a place of integrity or real virtue (other than empty titles they give themselves). They malign them because they can and it makes them feel better about their manhood. Even as, like alcohol or drugs, it’s fleeting and destroys their humanity (which includes their manhood) at the same time.

Out of hate and contempt they hold for women, either consciously, or subconsciously.

And that’s misogyny.

When women malign men during criticisms, it’s out of frustration, from constantly being told you’re less than. From constantly being dismissed, talked over, and disregarded.