Not when they've chosen to write about it themselves so much.

I'm not shaming her by bringing it up.

It is what it is. I accept her regardless. This is part of her past. She wouldn't be who she is today if her past had been different.

I'm accepting that it happened to her and not ignoring thr fact, which is just another form of gaslighting.

She's embraced it and accepted it. We should too. That's part of caring and compassion.

What do you think it says to people who have been injured to have that injury studiously ignored, at best, by society because it makes society uncomfortable?

Nothing good, right?

She's not dirty, worthless, or an embarrassment because of what happened to her. She's not useless because she's made some bad decisions in her life that left her vulnerable to exploitation. She's not trash, tarnished, or disposable.

She's one of us.

Act like it. I intend to, rather than reinforcing those notions and narratives because they make *some* people uncomfortable or out of some misguided sense of embarrassment.