Not sexualized, no. I'm talking about physically connecting with one's sexual self and enjoying sensual physical pleasure. This is not the same as the actual act of sexual intercourse, or being objectified, or overt sexualization.
I don't belly dance, no. But I know some belly dancers, two of whom are ethnically attached to belly dancing, meaning it was a part of the culture they grew up in. They didn't come to it outside of their culture, either respectfully or otherwise.
I mentioned belly dancing because I figured it would be more relatable because it's widely known and highly visual. But I guess I missed the mark here because of the comments. By no means was this a dig or a diss on belly dancing.
Belly dancing focuses on hip movements and chest thrusts, areas of the body that women generally attempt to diminish either by dress or by how they carry themselves because of objectification. So dancing in a way that focuses on those body parts is a way of connecting with your sexual self in a way that is perhaps otherwise denied to you.
I do do things that for me accomplish the same thing, of enjoying sensual physical pleasure and connecting with my sexual self in a nonsexual (action of sexual intercourse) way.
My friend who belly dances told me for her, she gets the same sort of feeling from it as what I was describing to her about feelings of sensuality from skating, the way the wind moves over your skin and the music.
Sensuality, sexuality and sex aren't the same thing.
In the context of the men wanting to be sexualized more... there seems to be some bleed over in meaning from sexualized from objectified. More broadly, a lot of men are talking on the internet about never getting sexual attention from women and how that's hurtful. They seem to want to be seen as sexy via objectification from women, all women, everywhere, all the time, no matter the context or environment.
Of course, this is just bizarre. They don't know what they're saying. Both because they're failing to find a way to articulate it and because they think all this objectification is a good thing and would make their lives bliss if they had it.
