Not more push back from his own side than women get.

Mostly I tend to think of this as an eeiting issue. People don't edit their own work well. They know what they meant so they rarely consider how it will land on someone else's ears. I'm guilty of this as well. I'm not a professional editor either. As part of my editing, I read aloud my articles to my daughter (the Urchling) though, so if something is off or unclear, or has an unintentional dark 2nd meaning, lots of times she'll pick it up and I can fix it. But not always. She's 19 and knows me well so she's trapped by knowing what I meant to say most of the time too.

'Pimping' is not harsh, it is how it landed, it's not that fine a line, and yeah it's a problem. It's too big an issue to get into in a comment, it's already part of the broader social dialogue anyway, and none of us know which way it's going to go ultimately. It'll be a group decision. But I believe whether or not women are freed enough to reach their full potential or not will depend on how that issue lands, and 2 others. That one's more on women than men, collectively we need to get out of our asses and start thinking clearly on this one.

Don't faint. Yeah, I said it. I'm an equal opportunity hard ass.

I do feel like it's unfair for a few reasons. First off, a lot of men's problems are internal problems, as in happening inside the mind. Women can support men with this, but they can't fix it for them. We women deal with these things too. Men can't fix it for us, but men we know who care about us can support us while we deal with it.

An example of this is dealing with low self worth via rejection in men and marketing propaganda objectification in women.

Both these things are very real, so I'm not dismissing or diminishing them, but they do happen in the mind.

I can't fix that for a man any more than I can fix why a woman is cutting herself. There's no magic wand or magic words or balm. Theres just a lot of hard work that the affected person has to do to overcome what's going on in their head.

I can leave breadcrumbs. General advice. Anecdotal stoeies that may or may not be helpful. I can vote against comditioms that give rise to the low self worth in the first place. If I had a son, you can be damned sure he wouldn't be getring in a twist about rejection any more than Urchling thinks she has to look like a model or constantly be perfectly done up to have worth or be worthy of love. Urcgling doesn't hate or obsess over her body. Like, I know you don't get it, but that's phenomenal. That's huge. It's practically unheard of in my generation.

Secondly, you can't pour from an empty cup. It's not wrong for women to prioritize ourselves for fucking once. We desperately need to get ourselves straightened out. We're still floundering too, even though yes, overall were doing better. Better isn't done or healed. Men are not helpless. They can carry their own water for a while. We're burnt out, you know? We've really been through the wringer on a few things.

I'm out of time. Gotta get to work.