Nope. Not about one man's loneliness.
Though it's interesting that you automatically give validity to Tony without verifying his opinion.
Tony wrote this article in response to an article by John Henry in which John Henry was talking about feeling sorry for lonely men and their frustrstions. Not about being lonely himself and not about another man, specifically, but just in general.
Most of his article was fine and more or less neutral. Where he went awry and got push back was in blaming women for men's loneliness and there was a general call to women to show more compassion towards men without an equivalent call to men work toward ending the culture of masculinity and is it's violence against women.
Tony took it personally based on a bit of spin and a lot of reframing, but whatever.
However, due to the pushback, John Henry left a comment addressing some of the debate.
He very clearly, using olain English and everything, said his article was NOT personal, just a general sympathy he felt for men whonwere still lonely as he was a recovering "nice guy".
But you and Tony are more interested in time policing and putting men first than in connecting the dots of "Women be nicer to men because they're so lonely" from a guy who used to do the very things that are hurting women and driving them to distrust and avoid men.
Since we're having a hard time here, let's put it in terms that might be easier to understand.
Lion plays cat and mouse with a gazelle. Gazelle flees and avoids lions. Panther says to gazelle, "you should be nice to those lions sitting there under a tree. They're not the ones who hurt you and it wasn't that bad. Now they're lonely because you're making a fuss, hysterically. Their loneliness is your fault for not giving them a chance."
Whether or not you're a threat to that gazelle is not based on what you're doing in one moment or what you want to believe to be true about yourself. It's depend upon your actions over the long haul.
The culture of masculinity defines male sexuality as predatory in nature.
It is not women who are falsely labelling men as beasts and monsters to be mean to you. We're just agreeing with what you've been saying to us for more than a generation now. That in order to be worthy as a man, you have to be a barely constrained beast (Jordan Peterson) and do whatever it takes to lock down a woman (Andrew Tate). And those two are just the latest.
So we believe you now. Sorry it took so long. I have no idea why we women were so stubbornly clinging to rbunkibg the best of you while you were being so clear and direct. Sorry about that.
We believe you. Congratulations.
How's that for constructive?
