Nope. Go back and reread it. Vanessa missed the mark on this one. Human Revolution had it right.

Boundaries are not conditions. That's not their purpose and not what they're for.

What she did was set conditions. That is toxic, but it's nothing to do with feminism or femininity. Men do this to women all the time too.

A good set of boundaries would have prevented her from setting conditions and also protected her from a similar set.