Nobody should be jumping through hoops. We should all be able to just be who we are. There nothing inherently wrong with low effort if that's who you are and all you want to offer. Besides, are we talking about low effort across the board or low effort on just one thing, like spending money or planning?

What is wrong is being low effort and then chastising or berating women for not wanting you because you're low effort. They've got a right to their preferences and personality too.

Women don't get to decide for men what theirs is; men don't get to decide for women what theirs is. As long as it's not illegal; as long as you're not hurting anyone.

Umtimately, if you're a low effort guy, you need to seek a likewise low effort woman or a Florence Nightingale or Fix-him Upper type and then be satisfied with what that entails.