Nobody said you deserved it. And yes, women can be misogynists too, just as men can be misandrists. Dominance culture is upheld by both sexes.

Where on earth did anyone say different???

You know how women started breaking the shackles? They started taking accountability for their own lives and their own emotional landscapes. They started talking about it and teasing out all the threads of the weave. They started to question every one. They started to change how they think.

Men couldn’t do that for us. We had to figure it out for ourselves. See where and how we’re contributing and change our own behavior.

All I’m saying is, it’s the same for men. I don’t have to be a man to see how men are struggling and how miserable so many of you are. You wouldn’t be doing a lot of the things you’re doing if you were happy campers.

You’re digging your own early graves because you think you have to.

I get it.

But nobody else can make you put the shovel down or put it down for you.

Any more than you men could for us women.

You’ve got to do that yourselves by taking accountability for your own mental and emotional wellbeing. Then, change your life roadmap in your own head (what’s going on in your own head).

It’s hard work and a tough job. There will be setbacks and all the people (male and female and in-between) who love dominance hierarchy will fight tooth and nail to keep it.

It all comes down to what matters to you more. Your right to live harmoniously within yourself and equitably with everyone else or their ability to make others miserable for their own comfort and gain?

And don’t assume that because a woman knows she can’t run your race for you, that she wants you to lose or that she isn’t cheering you on on the sidelines.

It has to be your victory.

So, if you really want it to change then, Runner, take your mark.