No. You think that I think men aren't capable or competenr with somestic tasks. And you're thinking that adter I already told you my dad is a househusband now.

Which just goes to show you're trying to browbeat your beliefs onto heteronormative people as though just changing roles will magically fix everything.

You're not listening.

You can't vet enough. And even the most docile of men will turn on you. Take a look at family annihilators, they're a good example. It's the most extreme version, but perhaps that will get through. They tend to fall into two extremes. Too masculine (your CEO, a bully, narcissist, sociopath, etc) or too feminine (has to be led, depressed, anxious, needs to be mothered, no initiation, looking to be mollycoddled).

In both these extremes, the men have a very poor sense of self. They are trapped by the man box. And that's why your suggestion won't work, and why assuming it will only puts women in harm's way.

The reason it works in the families I've seen it work is because the men are okay with themselves. They're able to see their contributions as provision and protection as well as earning a paycheck, which they are, OR they don't believe gender essentislist claptrap OR they were openly curious and found they liked it.

But the key to it all is that they were balanced in their identity already. And that's rare amongst men, particularly heteronormative men. That's what gender essentialist beliefs do to you.

But don't believe me. You go ask the heteronormative men in your life what their inherent value is. See what they say.

The problem is not majority with women. We've got our own equivalent problems, we don't needs you men's too, thanks. The problem is with how men define themselves. And apparently, it does not take much of a push to fall down either one of those rabbit holes.