No. Not in the way you're implying here. We need love and connection, that's true.

The love and comnextion Trinity and Neo had was beyond romantic love though.

What 3rd wave feminism has highlighted is that most attempts at findinf that via romantic love end up with Tiffany being a shell of herself with no inner spark while the husband and the kids are elevated at her expense.

Trinity was never Neo's Fuckmaid. Neo cared about Trinity too, rather thsn just what she provided for him.

3rd wave feminism isn't about selfishness or hyoer individuality at the expense of all else. It's about the realization that you can't pour from an empty cup, not can you depend on romantic love (as a woman) to tend your inner fire and keep it alive.