No. No. No.

We're not talking about honest men who are just quiet and reserved or your general intellectual dweeb.

I was the girl nerd in high school, okay. Not talking about those guys. They're actually my people so don't put words in my mouth I didn't say.

But come on. Let's not pretend here.

If you were a girl in high school, there were certain people, certain types, you knew to watch out for if you had a brain in your head.

One was the narcissistic jock. A narcissist is antisocial but some are very chariasmatic.

This is not all male student athletes. But if you think back to high school, a couple of names will come to mind, now that you know the words and what it looks like. You didn't know what to call these people then or why they made you uneasy, there was just this vague niggling in the back of your brain you didn't like and an uneasiness in the pit of your stomach. These guys always seemed to be the nexus of some kind of school drama that usually a girl got blamed for one way or another. These men usually grow up to be showboats who attract and need the fawning attention from young men by being abusive toward women. For some reason, many many young men are more than happy to hand over their self respect and self esteem to these frauds and look to them as the best path to manhood. It you look behind the facade of these fraudulent men, they're trainwrecks. Every damn time. Small snivelling little cowards who know they're less than the most humble of average men.

Same with every other group, including the dweebs. The vast majority grew up fine. They were awkward as teens, maybe they're still a little awkward. But they found their tribe and are living their lives.

Not talking about them.

But if you think back to that group, there will also be a few names that come to mind as being particularly anti-social. They were usually highly intelligent and fixated on that elevated intelligence in a particularly unhealthy and nasty way. They thought they were better than everyone else BECAUSE they were smart, ergo anything was justifiable so long as it got them what they wanted because they were more deserving. These guys had a superiority complex.

As adults, if these guys gain any kind of success they do a lot of damage. And it seems many young men ALWAYS choose these guys to want to emulate.

As a young woman, you learned pretty quick that the minute you drew the attention of one of these guys, he was going to cause you some grief. He's going to start acting like he owns you just because he's got a crush. And remember, anything is justifiable. Anything.

Those are the ones I'm talking about.