No. I meant change things on our end.

Like pairing up with another woman or group of women to raise kids.

Like staying within your family of origin to raise kids.

Like saving up money before getting pregnant.

Like being more proactive about instead of pregnancy being something that happens to you.

Like pushing for legislatuon that taxes men as a group to provide for children.

Like choosing careers that more align with motherhood.

There's all sorts of things women can do to make motherhood not be so devastating, big and small.

Why are we letting men make motherhood and our ability to have babies be a punishment?

If they want to be of no value or importance than being a sperm donor or a beast of burden, who are we to argue? And we are we sacrificing our peace of mind over it? Cut 'em loose and stop cleaning up the consequemces of their choices for them.

These are questions I ask myself. It was also the choice I made for myself, and it was a good one.

And I know that can't work for everyone off the bat and not everyone choises the sex that will impregnante them and all that. But broad strokes, maybe we should be rethinking this in more radical terms and moving in that direction as much as we can and helping others along the way.