Nice attempt at a side step, but it's not going to fly.
You can't see past having been the unwanted, abandoned, neglected, product of an affair child. That doesn't mean that the misogyny isn't in place here. It means you and others can't see it.
So what if the child happened to be a girl? You think it makes it any better for that women or that makes unfairly burdening her with a child that's not hers against her explicitly stated boundaries by manipulative means any better or justifiable?!? Are you kidding me?
You don't demand charity from people who don't want to give it. You don't require it from one group based on who they are while not requiring the same from everyone. You also don't make assumptions about whether or not one person is ready, willing and able to give said charity based solely on their gender.
The fact of the matter is, we are not informed one way or the other picking up this child placed an undue burden on this woman financially, time wise, or emotionally.
Assuming she should potentially upend her life as a now single mother to take care of her ex's affair baby without that information is what's selfish.
And that's why it's misogyny. Women and mother's are not public property. We don't owe you uncompensated labor or charity, especially when so fucking little of it ever comes out way or is reciprocated.
Don't think I didn't notice how, once again, you don't have boo to say about what that father did. It's his child. Not hers, ergo his responsibility. Not hers.
Maybe he shouldn’t have been so selfish as to place his career over the care of his child. Maybe he shouldn’t have been so selfish and self absorbed as to have wasted all his time off. Maybe if he can’t handle keeping the household afloat while his wife is in treatment for cancer he should apply for family leave and work it out. He’s the one who wanted that kid. Nobody forced him into having sex without a condom.
Guess what? That’s exactly the level of compassion single moms get when the struggle every damned day.
And you think it’s okay to now dump the responsibility for more kids onto her?
No. It’s not okay. It will never be okay. And I don’t care if that disappoints you.
