Nah. We're not making women responsible for anything but themselves here.
Look, you can't control how someone treats you. You can only accept or reject the treatment. You can control you. You can't control someone else's choices.
But sometimes women still need permission or need to give permission to reject that treatment because the ability to is still relatively new to us in the first place and we weren't socialized for it. We all know about the social pressure on women to maintain families at, more often than not, great personal cost for themselves. It hadn't made better families. It's made a bunch of people with unresolved emotional trauma from childhood then going out and wreaking on society in various ways.
That's what these statements are about, ultimately. Changing that narrative so you don't have to sit there and take abusive, callous, uncaring behavior from men who stood up in front of God, their families, and their community and swore an oath to love, honor, and cherish/respect you but then tapped out on everything but the expectation of on demand sex because they're entitled little shits.
You are not required to waste your life as the unwanted, red-headed fuckmaid to an oath breaker just cause society might shake their finger at you. Fuck them too. You take yourself and you take your babies and you leave these men. In their own mental squalor if that's how they want to live their lives.
You only get one life too. Don't waste it on someone who doesn't value you and lets you know how very little they regard you via that constant pervasive callousness and neglect every day of your life.
Dump the bastard. He will reap the consequences of his mental squalor or he'll straighten up. That's how you 'force' men to be responsible for their actions. You stop covering for them and cleaning up behind them.
Other men cannot do any better at this than you can. It's not their burden either. Much as I hate to say it, liberal feminists are wrong on this one. If you can't tell until you're living with a guy or he flips the switch or let's the mask drop, why do you think other men miraculously can? The average guy can barely match his own socks, seems like.
They can, on average, join us in shunning and calling out misogyny and sexism on a societal level. Learning what it is and what it isn't. The can more honestly prepare their daughters for what's out there. They can make sure their sons understand consent, rape law, and how to date respectfully, honestly, and authentically.
And then flip those for both genders because it's not like some women don't play games and some men get abused too.
