More like how they can relate to you. Your wife, for example....had you met her after you transitioned rather than before, she might like you for your personality and who you are but your relationship would be different.

It's a lot to put on somebody, to transition alongside you, transition that relationship.

They're likely to feel betrayed, somewhat, like you've been pretending so what else have you been keeping secret and lying about.

And if teyre cishet, you're asking them to change their sexuality to accomodate your gender expression....that you lied about.

It's a lot. There's a lot of victimizing of Transpeople, no doubt. But I'm their pursuit of establishing themselves as a different gender, a lot of Transpeople are doing some victimizing too.

It'll be that way, continuing to make things hard as long as gender tropes are in play. So don't take this comment as a personal attack, I'm just saying it's unfortunate for everyone involved that things are this way.

Hope things are better now for you.